On March 19th we celebrate the Solemnity of St. Joseph, protector of the Church, patron saint of workers and the foster father of Jesus. When we consider the responsibilities of fatherhood, and of foster fatherhood in particular, we see similarities between the great St. Joseph and the fictional character Uncle Ben Parker from the Spider-Man franchise.
āPeter, these are the years when a man changes into the man he is going to become the rest of his life. Just be careful who you change into. Remember, with great power comes great responsibility.ā – Uncle Ben Parker, Spider-Man (2002)
Though Uncle Ben Parker is not Peter Parkerās biological father, he dutifully serves as Peterās foster father after Peterās parents die in a plane crash. Uncle Ben doesnāt say a lot in Sam Raimiās movie and he dies before Peter ever makes his full transformation into Spider-Man, but his words, few as they may be, and his actions tell us the kind of man he is.
Uncle Ben is a humble man who works with his hands. When he is laid off from his job as an electrician after 35 years, he doesnāt complain, but humbly confesses his limitations. āIām 68 years old. Iām too old for computers,ā he tells Aunt May.
When Peter fails to do his chores or snaps at Uncle Ben (insensitively reminding him that he isnāt his real father), Uncle Ben doesnāt lose his patience or scold his foster son. He simply waits for another opportunity to connect with Peter. Though young Peter Parker may not have realized it until after Uncle Benās death, Uncle Benās desire was always to care for, guide and protect Peter.
āā[St. Joseph] among all stands out in his august dignity, since by divine disposition he was guardian, and according to human opinion, father of God’s Son.ā ā¦ Joseph is the one whom God chose to be the āoverseer of the Lord’s birth,ā the one who has the responsibility to look after the Son of Godās āordainedā entry into the world, in accordance with divine dispositions and human laws. All of the so-called āprivateā or āhiddenā life of Jesus is entrusted to Josephās guardianship.ā (Redemptoris Custos, 8)
St. Joseph is also a man of few words. In fact, he is never recorded saying anything in the Scriptures. When the angel of the Lord speaks to St. Joseph telling him to take Mary into his home, telling him to name the Child Jesus, telling him to take the Holy Family to Egypt, or telling him to return to Nazareth, St. Joseph simply does what he is told. He obeys.
āTherefore he became a unique guardian of the mystery āhidden for ages in Godā (Eph 3:9) ā¦. Together with Mary, Joseph is the first guardian of this divine mystery.ā (Redemptoris Custos, 5)
St. Joseph doesnāt complain when he makes the difficult journey to Bethlehem to participate in the census with his nine-month pregnant wife nor does he complain when he is unable to find a room for his wife to deliver Jesus. And when St. Joseph finds Jesus in the Temple after looking for him for three days, he doesnāt lose his temper or scold Jesus. He simply leads his foster son back to Nazareth and raises him there to be a pious Jew and a hard-working carpenter so that Jesus āadvanced in wisdom and age and favor before God and manā (Lk 2:52).
St. Joseph is strong in mind, body and spirit. Heās a man of action, a physical man who works with his hands as a carpenter and dutifully leads his family through difficulties, providing for their needs all the while.
āJoseph was in his day the lawful and natural guardian, head and defender of the Holy Family…. It is thus fitting and most worthy of Josephās dignity that, in the same way that he once kept unceasing holy watch over the family of Nazareth, so now does he protect and defend with his heavenly patronage the Church of Christ.ā (Redemptoris Custos, 28)
St. Joseph and Uncle Ben are similar in many ways. They were both guardians of heroes (Is 9:5). They both worked with their hands. They also share many virtues, including the virtue of silence. As we celebrate the Solemnity of St. Joseph during this time of Lent, let us contemplate how we might develop the virtue of silence in our own lives.
Andrew Garofalo
Andrew Garofalo lives in Parkland, Florida with his wife Julie and their three children. He has practiced law for seventeen years and is currently discerning a vocation to the permanent diaconate. You can find more of his work atĀ www.saintsjourney.com.